Why Still Searching?

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I have written in past posts of how our ‘Encore’ is that period in our Life when we finally have time for ourself, with no deadlines to race against, and no mandatory meetings to attend. It’s not a full stop but should be a new beginning, now filled with countless “me” time. Isn’t that what we’ve all been dreaming of?

Then why is it then when we checked every box on the success list; nice house, healthy retirement fund, supportive Family, good health, and finally, freedom from the daily grind, we might (still) wonder why it may feel like something’s fundamentally broken when we retire.

Everyone will keep telling You how lucky You are. “You’re living the dream!” And technically, they are right. If we have our health, a comfortable home, and enough money, what’s the problem?

Here is something to ask yourself: “Are you living your Life or just not dying?”

Going through motions. Checking boxes on some imaginary scorecard that measured everything except what actually mattered to us.

Think about it. How much of what we do is just maintenance? We exercise to stay healthy. We save money for security. We maintain relationships to avoid loneliness. We pursue hobbies to fill time.

None of these things are bad. But when our entire existence becomes about maintaining rather than creating, about preserving rather than growing, we are essentially just managing decline.

The question forces us to confront an uncomfortable truth: have we spent our years trying to enjoy a Life we never actually designed for ourself. Did we follow a template handed down by society, parents, and well-meaning friends — work hard, save money, retire comfortably, be happy.

But whose version of happiness were we chasing?

So, be truthful and ask yourself what You want your days to look like in this time of Life? What makes You feel energized versus depleted?

When we were working and surrounded by people, the fast pace hardly offered us time to pause, reflect, and embrace the small joys of Life that truly enrich our mental well-being.

During our career days, we may have found our mind engulfed by the fog of stress and exhaustion. We might have looked at the beautiful sunrise and saw it only as a reminder of the day’s chores waiting to be done. We looked for silence amidst the noise, for peace within the chaotic work routine.

Our ‘Encore Phase’ will be a blessing in that regard. It will allow us the freedom to slow down, to not just look at the sunrise but to once again appreciate its beauty, to appreciate the quite of the early morning and/or late night, to enjoy being outdoors in our yard or taking walks. This appreciation can open the door to mindfulness.

Mindfulness, the practice of being truly present in the moment, significantly boosts our mental health, reduces stress and anxiety, and brings a sense of inner peace. Our ‘Encore Phase’ offers plenty of opportunities to practice mindfulness, helping us connect better with our thoughts, emotions, and surroundings. It can be that opportunity for a silent journey to self-discovery and inner tranquility.

The shift from work-related stress to the calmness of retirement often contributes to better health. With added time to focus on diet, exercise; including those power naps in the afternoon, retirement offers an opportunity to lead a healthier lifestyle.

Little changes like these not only result in considerable health benefits but also add to the quality of life.

After years of supporting others and fulfilling responsibilities, retirement finally offers us the ‘me’ time we deserve. The hustle of life often keeps us from catering to our own needs and desires. The job, the Family, the household chores – we are so tied up that we often forget about ourselves.

Our ‘Encore Phae’ has the potential to change this, offering endless hours to spend as we wish. Listen to our favorite music, curl up with a good book, nurture our garden, meditate, or simply do nothing. We’ve earned this downtime.

This may seem like a simple pleasure, but it’s a powerful one. The constant ‘doing’ of Life often keeps us from the enriching experience of simply ‘being’. The ability to relax, take things slow, to just sit in silence and reflect, is profoundly therapeutic.

Embrace this newfound ‘me’ time. We’ve worked hard for it, it’s about time we enjoyed it.

Life’s beauty is in its various chapters, each holding its own charm. And a retirement, misunderstood to be an end, is actually a (new) beautiful beginning. The beginning of a phase which has its rhythm, its fulfillment, its rewards.

Our ‘Encore Phase’ is not about getting old; instead, it’s about getting the time to indulge in the experiences that enrich us. It’s a celebration of the years of hard work, a time for personal fulfillment, growth, and exploration. It’s the time to cheerish and enjoy a well-spent life and to indulge in the opportunities it offers.

As Charles Dickens rightly said, “Retirement is but the next great adventure”. So take on this journey, steer yourself in the direction(s) You wish to take and embrace the unknown . The magic of your ‘Encore Phase’ awaits us, make the most of it.

Remember, age is just a number, and retirement is your ticket to a fulfilling, carefree adventure. So, begin exploring. The journey of our ‘Encore Phase’ will be much more beautiful than we realize.

This time, our ‘Encore Phase’ is about our vitality. It’s about engaging in those things that bring us joy. It’s designing a Life that makes us want to show up rather than just survive until bedtime.

Stop asking yourself if you’re happy. Start asking if you’re living your Life or just not dying. The answer might uncomfortable, but it might also set you free

Continue stepping forward in the ‘Encore Phase‘ with enthusiasm and eagerness -and- please continue to take care of yourself, make the most of your days -and- always remember;

“Never quit searching, never settle and never give up seeking your greater purpose!“